Waiting for the End of Time: Divorce in Mobile, Alabama

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As a child of the seventies and eighties, I have vivid memories of hearing “Paradise by the Dashboard Light” as performed by Meatloaf on the radio. Of course, early on, I had no frame of reference for the story told in song about the heat of passion and the consequences.

For those of you who’ve never heard the song about teen-aged lovers, park in a car, making out and making a commitment, I recommend it. It’s almost operatic as the singers capture the frantic, sexually charged scene of entwined bodies. Baseball references lead to the moment of truth in which the girl halts all action pending an expression of undying love.

The boy, taken aback, asks to sleep on it repeatedly, but, in the end, instinct takes over and he says:

“I couldn’t take it any longer Lord I was crazed.
And when the feeling came upon me like a tidal wave
I started swearing to my god and on my mother’s grave
That I would love you to the end of time
I swore, that I would love you to the end of time.”

Then, presumably, they reach the height of passion, only to crash after the thrill is gone (Eagles reference). Almost immediately, feelings change and he transitions to:
“So now I’m praying for the end of time
To hurry up and arrive
‘Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you
I don’t think that I can really survive
I’ll never break my promise or forget my vow
But God only knows what I can do right now
I’m praying for the end of time
It’s all that I can do
Praying for the end of time, so I can end my life with you.”

So, Ron, what’s the lesson here for me as a potential client of McBay Law, LLC? Here we go. January through March is traditionally the time-frame in which most folks file divorce complaints. Filings spike in January and peak by March. Here’s a nice list of how to prepare if you find yourself on the brink: http://company.findlaw.com/press-center/2012/march-is-divorce-month.html

That being said, I want to remind you that, excluding situations involving physical abuse or criminal activity, there was a time when you thought your current spouse was the bees knees. You, voluntarily and without reservation as a consenting adult, committed to a lifetime relationship with this person until death. Electric word “Life.” It means forever and that’s a mighty long time (Prince reference).

Sometimes, divorce cannot be avoided. I spend most of my waking hours during the work week engaged in efforts to resolve conflict and help my clients transition through divorce in a way that allows them to start over and minimizes the negative effects of divorce on children. I am here to help you do the same. Divorce is a serious business, and as with marriage, not something to enter into lightly.

As the singers discover, there is no Paradise by the Dashboard Light. There are only two people, committed to one another, struggling through the sometimes difficult work of a successful relationship.

Call me at: (251)445-0891 or email me at: ron@mcbaylaw.com. I can help.