Making Up Is Hard to Do

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Thankfully, I’ve recently had a spate of couples who have decided to try and make their marriages work after filing a divorce. In a couple of instances, even after a great deal of fighting and legal wrangling, I’ve had clients lay down their swords and engage in reconciliation. I love it when that happens.

In my work, I derive satisfaction from helping clients weather the storm of divorce, or whatever family law issue in which they’re involved. I don’t enjoy divorce and I certainly don’t enjoy being a part of a heated conflict that results in pain and suffering to the parties, their children, and their families.

That being said, you’ve got to be careful and protect yourself. Nostalgia is a powerful emotional force that can soften the memory of why you wanted a divorce in the first place. Dr. Sheri Meyers has a few words of wisdom on the issue. Here’s a link to her article:

In cases in which the divorce is active, if a client decides to attempt reconciliation, I almost always recommend dismissing the divorce case during the reconciliation effort. Removing the attorneys and engaging a therapist is probably the right decision here, because you can’t fully litigate the divorce, nor can you fully invest in therapy if you’re not committed totally to one or the other.

I said all of that to say this. When you retain me as your attorney, I’m committed to helping you make the best decisions you can make for you and your family. Sometimes, that may mean dismissing the case. Call me at (251)445-0891 or email me at I can help.