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Who can you trust?

mycasewebsites2 • Feb 25, 2014

I sat across from a 16 year-old boy at the youth detention facility. The state charged him with armed robbery. He was in big trouble. I reviewed his file materials before I drove to see him. I held the police reports in my hands as he told me his story.

Don’t get me wrong. Police officers are imperfect humans, as we all are imperfect. They prepare imperfect reports. They view the facts through their imperfect lenses. However, this child’s story bore no resemblance to that of the police. He was lying to me. He did not trust me. However, at that moment in time, I was the only person he could trust. He didn’t know he had a reason to trust me.

I stopped him. I explained the attorney-client relationship as best I could.  I told him I knew he was lying. I begged him to be honest with me so I could help him. He wasn’t buying. He maintained several versions of his lie before he started to trust me to help him. Trusting me, for him, took a long time.

Once you’ve chosen your attorney, he/she can’t do their best for you if you are not completely open and honest with them. They just can’t. As attorneys, we are bound by rules of professional conduct that require us, within certain extreme limits, to keep your secrets. To perform at our highest level, we have to know those secrets.

If you can’t bring yourself to trust your attorney, you should part ways. Find one to whom you can tell those deepest darkest details. It’s the only path to the light at the end of the tunnel.

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