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A Boy Named Sue: There’s No Law Against S****Y Parenting in Mobile, AL

mycasewebsites2 • Mar 25, 2015

My Mother listened to a lot of country music during the course of my childhood in rural Morgan County. I remember seeing Conway Twitty and Loretta Lynn at the Von Braun Civic Center in Huntsville, Alabama as a wee child.

I vividly remember listening to and learning the lyrics for “A Boy Named Sue.” You know the song. “My Daddy left home when I was three. He didn’t leave much for my Maw and me; just this old guitar and an empty bottle of booze. Now I don’t blame him cause he run and hid, but the meanest thing that he ever did, was before he left, he went and named me Sue.”

I thought that song was hilarious. The song tracks a fatherless child who has to fight his way through life. He swears to take revenge on his “Daddy” and finally finds him in a saloon. There’s a fight and a reconciliation of sorts.  Here’s a video of Johnny Cash singing the classic country song:   http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xp5gwi_johnny-cash-a-boy-named-sue-live-at-san-quentin-jail-1969_music

Sue comes to realize that, even though his Daddy wasn’t even a good father, he did at least one thing with the intention of helping Sue survive and grow strong.

In my line of work, I come into contact with a wide range of parents and parenting skills. In client interviews, I regularly hear complaints of custodial parents regarding non-custodial parents who refuse to spend time with their children.

For those of us who’ve had to fight to see our kids, it boggles the mind that there are those out there who prefer not to do so.  Note here, my ex and I have worked out the visitation issues and nothing here is meant as a jab at her.

Clients want to know what they can do.  In a technical sense, if the non-custodial parent isn’t exercising visitation, it could be construed as contempt and you could take them back to court; but do you really want to drag the kids through that mess again?  I regularly have to advise folks that there is no law against being a s*****y parent.  As long as the child support is coming in and the parent isn’t harming the child, there’s not much to be done unless you have time, money and heartache to burn.

That being said, if your ex is constantly violating the terms of your divorce decree, give me a call.  I will give you the straight poop on whether their in contempt, or just full of it.

Ron McBay, 251-445-0891.  You can email me at ron@mcbaylaw.com.

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