Divorce, Child Custody, and Perspective

Recently, I find myself returning to the theme of perspective with regard to some pretty contentious divorce and custody matters. I’m going to date myself here, but Tim Robbins starred in Jacob’s Ladder years ago in which he played the role of a Vietnam Veteran who was dealing with the after-effects of a government experiment with acid on the battlefield. I won’t engage in any spoilers, but there’s a particular scene in which Jake’s chiropractor, Louie, is trying to comfort Jake about what he’s experiencing. Louie quotes the 14th-century mystic Meister Eckhart to Jake, stating, “If you’re holding on and afraid of dying, you’ll see demons tearing your life apart. If you’ve made your peace, then the demons are really angels freeing you from the world.” Here’s the clip:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0FbtMOGlyKU

So much of what I do is exactly what Louie does in that scene. People come to me hurting fearful and in doubt. Their lives are changing and naturally, they’re clinging to what’s familiar, so sure that someone, or a group of somebodies, is intent on tormenting them throughout the process. Sometimes, that’s true.

However, I find that it’s just as likely that the demon on the other side is just as suspicious and fearful about the transition as the client I’m trying to help. When you find yourself worried and clinging to any familiar attachment you can grasp, call me. I’ll review the situation with you and do my best to help you discern the real threats from the simple fear of change.